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Mr. E's avatar

Great article! And fun fact: Martin Luther of the Protestant Reformation said, "I cannot in good conscience prohibit polygamy, for the Bible itself does not. " This applies to other form of polyam too, Luther was being asked specifically about polygamy when he uttered the quote. First encountering this quote sent me to research the scripture for all passages which could support or denounce this claim. Ultimately, I found him to be correct. I did not know the impact this would have on my life until about a decade later, when my wife and I wound up discussing polyamory further. She wanted to date a high school crush who reentered her life, and I my best female friend. Now we have a sort of chain for a polycule!

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Tiffany Pippin's avatar

It’s been a help reading your content and I have struggled immensely with these thoughts and feelings I cannot shake. I spend time in my Bible almost every day, I pray and grew up in church. My belief system has evolved over time and I have found that I truly love other people outside of my marriage to my husband. I have been unfaithful and he knows and we are trying to work through things. I long for the freedom to have relationships outside of my marriage. I find a great deal of happiness being friends or lovers with others. And I do not wish to live a lie. I absolutely hate lying…it rips me apart. But I feel very confined and caged in my current state, have been doing a lot of self work, healing, and learning to love myself and try not to judge others or myself for that matter (as I have in the past). I’ve grown up with a lot of shame even when I did nothing to deserve it. But I find that living a lie is too much for me. I’m an artist and want to be able to express myself through my art but have felt stifled by my fundamentalist upbringing. My husband is a bit jealous and that’s okay but also possessive. I do not wish to be like an object and possess and I don’t want to have those feelings towards someone else. I do want meaningful connections with others, not just random sex, in this realm. But I’m scared as hell to bring up this subject to him. We do have a couple friend who is polyamorous and we will be hanging out with them tonight. Although we haven’t discussed the idea of opening up our marriage I’m hoping that being around them might open our eyes a little to this lifestyle, it’s pros and cons, and maybe I can open the discussion with him, and explore this option. We have two kids, who I’m very open with and they are amazing. And coming across your articles has been a God send to say the least. I’ve always felt that if something was a mutual agreement between two people then it should be okay. And I’ve also been outspoken about issues in the church I don’t agree with or feel don’t align with scripture. So I’m not naive to what might be thrown at me but it’s damn scary entering this space, when you been taught differently your whole life, but in the meantime see many of your church friends and family getting divorces and remarried…is this just another form of polyamory being masked by what is considered acceptable?

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