I’ve recently discovered I am polyamorous and struggled with the idea of the lifestyle while being Christian. It’s good to know there are others like me.
I'm from Winnipeg Manitoba Canada and I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, his wife and I have a close bond too, and my husband and I have been together for 13 years. Between the two Original couples, we each had two children spanning 4 to 12 years old. The kids have started to really bond like siblings. I recently came out as polyamorous to my conservative Christian parents and two sisters. I also identify as a Christian and so does my husband. We still go to church, but we left my lifelong church where my parents go to attend a more open minded church. My parent's and sisters took the news hard. My parents think my husband should have divorced me instead of going into polyamory with me. My sister said maybe my parents should take custody of my children. It was one of the hardest decisions to come out to my family. I haven't even told my brother and sister in law because she is too judgemental and would never understand. I just spent the weekend with my mom's side of the family (15 ladies...cousins and aunts) for a ladies spa retreat and i felt like I couldn't freely talk about my life. I doubt my mom has told her siblings about me being polyamorous. It is hard to navigate. Now our polycule is house shopping. We want to fully merge our lives together under one roof. I pray my parents eventually are open to getting to know the other half of my family that I've chosen to merge with mine. My husband is dating my boyfriend's wife for about 5 months now too.
I'm not going to lie - some of this I feel like I could've written myself (especially the bit about being a writer and a bad liar), and a lot more of this scared the living hell out of me. I'm still new to the poly lifestyle, but I'm happier than I've ever been in my life; I'm also more financially insecure than I've ever been in my life, and I'm genuinely scared I'll lose my housing soon if I don't find a job. (I'm disabled and need a remote position... my contract with the major tech company I was working for lapsed months ago when the industry cratered, and I've been desperately looking ever since with no good offers.)
I don't know how my parents will react. I know how I want to live my life, but I don't know how to survive this capitalist hellscape when it costs so much just to exist. My boyfriend lives with his wife and kids, and I know they don't have room for me; neither does the other gentleman I'm seeing fairly regularly. I'm scared, but trying to stay hopeful.
I'd appreciate it if you could keep me in your prayers. And thank you again, so very much, for writing this. I truly appreciate it.
I’ve recently discovered I am polyamorous and struggled with the idea of the lifestyle while being Christian. It’s good to know there are others like me.
I know exactly what that's like.
Thank you for this. It’s really helpful. I’m sharing with my wife and our respective girlfriends.
I'm from Winnipeg Manitoba Canada and I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, his wife and I have a close bond too, and my husband and I have been together for 13 years. Between the two Original couples, we each had two children spanning 4 to 12 years old. The kids have started to really bond like siblings. I recently came out as polyamorous to my conservative Christian parents and two sisters. I also identify as a Christian and so does my husband. We still go to church, but we left my lifelong church where my parents go to attend a more open minded church. My parent's and sisters took the news hard. My parents think my husband should have divorced me instead of going into polyamory with me. My sister said maybe my parents should take custody of my children. It was one of the hardest decisions to come out to my family. I haven't even told my brother and sister in law because she is too judgemental and would never understand. I just spent the weekend with my mom's side of the family (15 ladies...cousins and aunts) for a ladies spa retreat and i felt like I couldn't freely talk about my life. I doubt my mom has told her siblings about me being polyamorous. It is hard to navigate. Now our polycule is house shopping. We want to fully merge our lives together under one roof. I pray my parents eventually are open to getting to know the other half of my family that I've chosen to merge with mine. My husband is dating my boyfriend's wife for about 5 months now too.
Thank you for this. I needed to hear from someone who's been where I have as someone who isn't out of the closet.
Thank you so much for writing this.
I'm not going to lie - some of this I feel like I could've written myself (especially the bit about being a writer and a bad liar), and a lot more of this scared the living hell out of me. I'm still new to the poly lifestyle, but I'm happier than I've ever been in my life; I'm also more financially insecure than I've ever been in my life, and I'm genuinely scared I'll lose my housing soon if I don't find a job. (I'm disabled and need a remote position... my contract with the major tech company I was working for lapsed months ago when the industry cratered, and I've been desperately looking ever since with no good offers.)
I don't know how my parents will react. I know how I want to live my life, but I don't know how to survive this capitalist hellscape when it costs so much just to exist. My boyfriend lives with his wife and kids, and I know they don't have room for me; neither does the other gentleman I'm seeing fairly regularly. I'm scared, but trying to stay hopeful.
I'd appreciate it if you could keep me in your prayers. And thank you again, so very much, for writing this. I truly appreciate it.