So, wanna talk to me about polyamory and non-monogamy?

I'm not an expert, but maybe I've got some expertise.

As I reckon with my desire to create an independent career out of writing about some of my most important identities and how they don’t conflict (Christian, polyamorous), I am struck by the number of people who often ask me for direct help with specific situations. They’re usually just like me: going through the journey of non-monogamy and hoping to keep their faith intact but dealing with the complexities of family, history, identity, culture, and of course, human relationships.

I’m usually happy to reply to emails, DMs, and messages as I can, but sometimes it gets to be overwhelming. For one thing, I’m not a therapist. I’m not a theologian. I don’t have any formal training. I’m a layperson with a bachelor’s degree in journalism (minor in Bible!) from a Christian college, and that’s it.

I’m also not an expert in relationships, sex, or mental health, except to the extent that I’ve dealt with issues personally… more than most people have, I would say. But I don’t like to call myself an expert, even if I am! I have horrific imposter syndrome, and I’m scared of giving someone bad advice.

But… I also can’t keep spending my time responding to so many in-depth, heartfelt personal queries for free. It’s not that I don’t want to. It’s that I’m busy, and I’m struggling financially as student loans return while we try to buy a house and need not one but two new cars. All during career transitions!

So, I’m offering a new service: I can video chat with you (Google Hangouts, Discord, Skype, or Microsoft Teams — sorry, I don’t pay for Zoom) for 20 minutes for $50 or 40 minutes for $100 and give you advice on spirituality, sexuality, and all forms of non-monogamy. If you’re not a video chat person, no problem: I’ll also offer my email address so that we can go back and forth via long emails or Discord chats instead if that’s what you prefer.

I hate that people make community and learning resources cost money. I’m not a capitalist. I encourage you all to Google specific phrases, terms, and situations or turn to places like Reddit so that you don’t take part in some influencer’s grift unnecessarily, including mine. I would hate for you to waste your money on something that could be easily searched online. (Including already published here at Dirtbag Christian!)

I know that these services are annoying. But I believe my time and knowledge are both precious. Of course, you should know the limits of my expertise, as I am not a professional. I have had to seek out extensive mental health treatment myself, and I know that there are many issues in which you need professional help and not just a coaching service from an online writer. I cannot solve your problems! I can only talk to you from my own personal experience.

If you’re interested in reaching out for potential coaching services regarding Christianity and polyamory, or just want to shoot the shit with me (please, no dating/flirting/weird sex stuff — the price for that would be WAY higher :P), reach out to me via my Google contact form here, and I’ll get back to you:

https://jennifercmartin.com/contact.html

If not — hi! How are your journeys with polyamory and faith going?